Parents tend to focus primarily on their custody arrangements and schedules when they get divorced. In reality, most people usually do not consider a child’s other relationships, like friends and extended family when making custody and parenting time decisions.
Especially if a child sees them often and has bonded with them, the relationship they have with a friend or family member is essential and something that parents should keep in mind and consider when making custody decisions. Your child may rely on a friend or another family member for emotional support during and after the divorce.
Imagine, for example, that your source of support, whether that is a best friend, family member or therapist, goes away overnight. For a moment, think about how that would make you feel so you understand the importance of considering a child’s relationships, because it is an essential part of their lives and emotional development.
Things you can do to make the process easier
There are many other things that parents can do to make divorce easier for children, including doing things that make them feel secure and loved, providing structure and a positive environment for them to explore and express their emotions freely as well as ensuring they understand that divorce is not their fault and that both parents remain committed to loving them and caring for them.
Divorce is hard for everyone, every time. There is no way around the harshness that comes with the dissolution of a family. Still, most parents really do want what is best for their children and there are ways to make divorce an easier experience for a child, which is preferable and conducive to their well-being and future.